Working with your ex

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How will you be in no contact if you are seeing your ex frequently in your workplace or classes?

Should you just behave like they don’t exist?

No. Don’t be rude and cold. Don’t behave like they don’t exist. They already associated you with some negative things so they dumped you. They believed that you would not be happy together. Now, their subconscious mind expects you to chase them. But they also expect you to create drama and stress. 

The first thing you need to do is to stop your ex from associating you with drama and negative thoughts. They should start to associate you with comfortable, attractive, calm, fun and positive things. You are a strong person and difficult days cannot destroy you or your mood.

So when you see them in the workplace, you can smile and say hello. Your ex may not want to have eye contact with you but you behave normal.

Isn’t it smiling and saying hello contradictory with no contact rule?

It is not ideal but you need to keep the minimum civilized interaction with your ex in your workplace or school. Also, not doing this will show butt hurt and they will think you cannot get over them. Normal, civilized behaviour will show that you walked away.

But do not interact with them beyond minimum work / school related issues. If you can, see them less. Don’t try to talk to them, if possible avoid anything more than small talk, don’t meet them individually and never contact them after school or work. If you need something from them, first try to find someone else to do this. Many people try to use work/school related necessities as an excuse to talk to their ex. You do the opposite. Don’t contact them unless you cannot find anyone else to handle the work in hand with.

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