Should i contact my ex on valentine's day, his/her birthday or any special occasion?

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Should you call your ex on special days when you are in No Contact? Birthday, Valentines Day, New Year, Christmas, their graduation, new job, etc. Should you call them? 

If you don’t reach out to your ex on these special days, will it have a negative effect on your pursuit to get them back?

This is a great source of anxiety for the dumpee. They think they owe a call or message on these days and they think the dumper expects these calls and messages.

But the answer is NO! NO WAY.

Do not reach out to your ex even on these days. Yes even on their birthday.

First of all it will ruin everything you are trying to achieve by no contact. Second, this will still be seen as your pursuit to get them back. And this is true. You are trying to find an excuse to pursue them and to reach out.

You are in No Contact. You should walk away and never look back (unless they reach out to you). If you reach out to them on special days, this means you have not walked away and you are looking back.

No Contact means no contact. You don’t reach out to them on the special days. Birthdays included. Valentine's Day is a big big no! I will put it bluntly: You won’t reach out even if their mother dies. I am sorry, it is what it is. Forget about it.

If they call you, you need to be polite, calm and fun. But until this happens, you need to let your ex feel the consequences of the breakup. You should give them the gift of missing you. This requires you to totally get out of their life.

Your ex dumped you. They want you less in their life. They don’t want to be closed to you (at least until they reach out to you). Respect this and walk away. Don’t enter their life even as a short message on a special day. 

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