Your ex flakes

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Your ex accepted to meet but flaked at the last minute. What to do?

Do not show any emotional response. This is the first thing you must do. Don’t get sad, angry, rude, etc. You can slightly show your disappointment but don’t exaggerate. Just respond like this:

“Oh, OK. It would be nice to meet but no problem. Let me know if you want / are free to meet up.”

This is frustrating but you should keep your cool. Because this may be a test.

Maybe your ex is scared to meet up. You don’t know. So assume this is a test and pass the test. If you behave like it is not a very big deal, you would pass the test.
Next, go into no contact mode again. In this case since your ex flaked, I suggest you not to ask for a meeting even if this is your first request. Behave like two meeting requests are rejected.

If your ex still reaches out you will not ask to meet up again. They will bring the idea of meeting up, you won’t. This time though you will cut the calls or messages much shorter. Be polite, calm and fun but always behave like they caught you in the middle of an important task.

Always say the same thing. For example:

“Hey, I gotta go now. See you later. Take care.”

This will indirectly tell them that you have tried but they don’t try. Then you are out.

You are going your own way. Of course you will never tell this to them but cutting calls/messages (politely) short will give this message.

There would be one of these two outcomes: Either your ex will STOP reaching out to you or they will propose to meet up.

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