My ex does not want to meet up

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If your ex does not accept to meet up if they are not available and they don’t know when they will be available say this:

“Ok. You check your calendar and later let me know when you are available.”
If your ex does not want to meet up (by mentioning this directly or indirectly), say this:

“Ok. It would be great to see you but if you change your mind let me know.”

If your ex again says they don’t want to meet up just ignore it. Don’t say anything. You said what you should say. Keep cool and polite and cut the conversation short. DO NOT insist or do not start an argument on this. 

AND again go into no contact mode. Don’t reach out to your ex until your ex reaches out again. If your ex reaches out again (your calm and fun mood will increase the likelihood of your ex reaching out again) exchange messages or words in the same manner. AND one more time suggest meeting up.

This is important: You will only ask to meet up 2 times. Not more. If your ex rejects your meeting request two times, end the conversation like above. Never lose cool, fun and polite mood. Go back to no contact mode.

If your ex rejects to meet up twice but still reaches out, you will not ask to meet up again. They will bring the idea of meeting up, you won’t. This time though you will cut the calls or messages much shorter. Be polite, calm and fun but always behave like they caught you in the middle of an important task.

Always say the same thing. For example:

“Hey, I gotta go now. See you later. Take care.”

This will indirectly tell them that you have tried but they don’t try. Then you are out. You are going your own way. Of course you will never tell this to them but cutting calls/messages (politely) short will give this message.

There would be one of these two outcomes: Either your ex will STOP reaching out to you or they will propose to meet up.

Don’t be afraid of taking the risk. You deserve to be with someone who at least would meet you! If they would STOP reaching out after you do what we have written here, you would not lose because you did not insist! Insisting would not work but will only prolong the inevitable and make you weaker. Don’t get weaker. Have some self respect to not pursue someone who rejects your meeting requests and does not even ask to meet up. This shows they don’t have a problem losing you.

You should not pursue someone who does not care to meet up with you.

In many cases your ex may not be ready to meet you at that time but thanks to your easy going and polite exchange, your ex would call and ask for a meeting when they are ready.

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